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Orientation Series #3: Friends pt 1



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Here’s how you make friends in College:

  • Remain in your room with your door shut when you’re not required to be out and about. Someone out there will eventually knock and ask to be best friends.
  • If your roommate wants you to go out with him/her, don’t.
  • Stay sheltered, and avoid eye contact at all times.
  • If someone accidentally catches you gawking at them, avert your eyes immediately- oh wow what an interesting route that dust particle is taking.
  • When a random person says hello, don’t be rude! Say hello back, but only give one word answers if they’re trying to go into conversation.
  • Never ask questions
  • Never give answers to questions you know about and only nod yes, or no if the questions are directed towards you.
  • Do not participate in games


Honestly, i’m not sure what to tell you if you haven’t figured out that the list above is the fool proof way of NOT making friends in college. What I’ve learned at orientation in terms of people is that, as freshmen, we’re all way too anxious and antsy. We’re more concerned about making friends than feeding ourselves. I don’t care if you want to admit it or not, but we all have this corner of our hearts that just fears rejection. If we go through rejection so early on in our college career, life would end. Personally, I’m immune to rejection (more on that at another time), but I still long for meaningful and lasting relationships.

The way I made friends during orientation was kind of hilarious. It’s been three, maybe four weeks since then, and I still have not forgotten my interactions with the people I met. By the end of my two days, it’s like I went to high school with everyone around me.

Okay, like my #2 Time Matters post states, I met my orientation roommate in the elevator on the way up to our room. It was like I go to push the button to my floor and I saw that it was already pushed.

I look at her and was all like, “fourth floor? Me too. What room?”


I had to double check with my key to make sure I wasn’t going crazy. that’s when I said,

“ hey there roommate”, and she said “ haha what a coincidence”. The elevator doors opened up and we made our way to the room.



So I’m sitting here with the men in my family, watching non other than american football. Typical. It’s not a problem though because the boys on the screen are literally perfect. Here’s the problem, after maybe four to five minutes of watching the game, I came to the realization that, my college doesn’t have American Football as an official sport.


Excuse me, i’m just gonna go in that corner and cry.


As a retired high school cheerleader, I must admit, we honestly had no idea what actually happened out on the battlefield. If we weren’t performing, it wasn’t relevant. We based our cheers based off of the crowd’s reactions. Thanks to the dads out there, without even knowing it, they’d let us know when it was a good time to call that offense cheer. For those who are still learning, It’s simple really, if we don’t have the ball… we’re on defense.


If anyone were to ask why a bunch of muscle boys would have an organized fight over carrying a ball to a specific side of the field… Cheerleaders wouldn’t have the answer.

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Over the years, I’ve learned to appreciate football for what it truly is… A sport where I can gawk at boys bending over and running in super tight pants. Whew! Those weekly two and a half hours were the highlight of our squad’s week. Personally, I drooled over that kickoff at the beginning of each play, something about pretty boys marching, then running all in unison made me really happy. This all seriously just reminded me on how I took football for granted. Hmm, I wonder where those transfer papers are.


Those Last Summer Days

What will you be doing on September 10th -16th? Oh? Did you say crying sloppy wet puddles from looking at the amount of schoolwork you’ve been blessed with? LOL. I know! I promise to think of you while I sit in my newly purchased bathing suit, enjoying the hot Bahamian sun, on a relaxing Carnival cruise.

This week, everyone is moving into school, starting classes, and going through Welcome Week. I myself am sending my best friends away while sit in the midst of a dreadfully boring routine consisting of eat, work, sleep, repeat. It’s like the one time I wish summer was cut short, it mocks me and decides to be twice as long.

I don’t move in to school until the third week of September, and this is probably the one thing I don’t like about my college. Everything on the calendar is different, the start date, spring break and testing dates; they’re all different from the yearly calendars of “normal” American colleges. I’m really annoyed that my clock will be so off from my friend’s clocks when it comes to coming back home. I actually probably will never see them again.

Really though, I shouldn’t be complaining, because one week before I start that getting up early for the eat, class, sleep, repeat, routine; I hop on a plane and go to my first vacation in ten years. It’ll be a week long vacation, where I spend the first two days crashing at a family’s house in Miami, then, I’ll be taking a four night, five day cruise to the islands. Then, I literally get in the car and drive to college. So close, yet so ffaarrrr!!

Anyway, for this cruise, I’ve decided to re-invent myself (am I the only one who does this?). In order to do that, I need to do some serious vacation shopping. For convenience, I’ve pasted what I’ve come up with for my shopping list so far – in case you have any suggestions. :-)

  1. Jammies – preferably a onesie (Cute and comfortable )

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  2. Cocktail dress(es)/ Little Black Dress (late night partying)
  3. Bathing Suits (need I even explain?)
  4. Sunglasses/Sun Hats (must be fashionable in the sun)
  5. Work-out clothes (the cruise has a gym!)
  6. Waterproof make-up (Got to be prepared to meet beautiful cruise beaus/ future husbands)
  7. New jean shorts (To celebrate those last summer days)
  8. A new perfume (Need to spice things up a bit)
  9. A new suitcase (I think I’ve grown out of my pink sleeping beauty one)
  10. Seasick medication (I’ve never been on a cruise. One must be prepared)

I feel like I’m forgetting something…

Who am I kidding? I’m definitely forgetting something.

In the meantime, Hope you’re having fun obsessing over that first test you have next week. I promise to send you a postcard!


Until next time,



Orientation Series: #2 Time Matters


Ask any gal what her biggest fear is when it comes to going to events. “Well, obviously that would be being late”. Being late on any occasion starts you out on a bad foot, gives you major anxiety, and is usually the pre-cursor to something bad thats about to happen. Every gal knows that as soon as you hit that snooze button one too many times, it’s like final destination and your life might as well be over. Snooze for an extra five minutes makes getting ready ten minutes longer because you’re always scrambling to get out of the house.

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When it comes to orientation, try to get there early to avoid the hour-long lines during check-in. In other words, don’t be late. Personally, I was there earlier than they said I needed to be, so I had time to just chill out at the station before I made my walk over to campus. Even then, I got to check-in right on time and it took me less than 10 minutes to do everything. So after check-in, I was able to meet my orientation roommate, get settled down in our room and explored the city.

Things to do if you’re early at orientation:

  1. Find your roommate
  2. Connect with your roommate
  3. Go see your room
  4. Try to get onto your bed
  5. Realize they’re way too high
  6. Waste 20 minutes trying to climb them
  7. Your roommate points out they’re adjustable
  8. Even then, use a chair to climb on
  9. Leave your room with your roommate
  10. Force yourself to meet new people
  11. Eat dining hall food
  12. Explore the city
  13. Get your ID card done
  14. Finally go to the first orientation meeting spot

I’m sensing because we were early, my roommate and I were able to get to know each other and do a couple of things before orientation officially started. We had that nice leisure time where we weren’t in a rush to do everything. So naturally, we had a great time.

My 1st period math teacher always told me, “if you’re early, you’re on time. If you’re on time, you’re late; and if you’re late, don’t even bother showing up.” This quote is probably the only thing she said that I actually understood, and I’ll probably never forget it.


Until next time,



Orientation Series: #1 Commuting to Campus


“As a college gal moving from the suburbs to the city for higher education, nothing is more exciting than a four hour commute to and from school” – said no one ever.

Imagine living in a part of the universe where taking public transportation would be deemed as “exciting” or “enjoyable”. Decisions on where to live, work, and go to school would be so much easier. It wouldn’t matter if you had to commute for thirty minutes or five hours, the NJ Transit train party would never end.

Okay people!!! Back to reality! that part of the universe doesn’t exist. Train and bus rides are long, uncomfortable, and a complete snooze-fest on any given day. You wake up that morning ready to start a new section of your life, but one minute into the train ride, and you’ve already mentally added teleporting to the list of things you need to invent.

My solution? A book. Yeah, you heard me right, A book. I can hear you now- “Girl, this is the twenty-first century, go back to the stone age. Books aren’t a thing anymore”. I know, I know, we’ve got e-readers, laptops and music players, all things that are great at keeping us occupied during those uneventful commutes to and from school; but seriously, get a book.

The very first time I commuted to campus by myself, was to meet with my school’s pre-health advisor. I could have driven to school, but that’s a two hour drive, and the lazy girl in me was very convincing on why I was not about to do that. So I got on the train with a bag full of devices, and thought I was prepared for anything. Boy was I wrong. I turn on my laptop, only to find out that the train itself didn’t have wifi. It connected for two seconds whenever the train stopped at a station, but disconnected whenever the train was on the move. Streaming movies on two-seconds wifi every ten minutes came to be very annoying.

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Alright, I can’t stream movies, or go on any websites on my laptop, that’s fine, I’ll just do all of that on my phone. I’ll use up all of my data, and we’ll cross that data bill bridge when it’s in my mailbox. Twenty minutes later, my phone dies with no outlets in sight. First no wifi, then no outlets, this train needs a serious update.

Now we’re back to the laptop with no internet. Using it wasn’t as torturous as I imagined. I could listen to music, play some games, even read a downloaded book without a problem. The problem did come about an hour later when the laptop decided it was going to die as well.  What Now? I had no back-up plan, and these devices were both dead from constant use. Literally, there was nothing to do but surrender to boredom, twiddle my thumbs, and cry on the inside.


–What’s your solution to staying sane when your electronic device dies out?–


The second time around, On my way to orientation, I knew better. I brought two handheld, paper back, physical page turners with me. I mean, I had my electronics too, in case the books died or something.

Here’s the thing, I didn’t use my laptop once during that train ride. The book I was reading was a gut busting laugh-out-loud book. It had me crying messy snot-filled tears, relating to the protagonist in ways I never thought I could. It was hard to put down, and get this, I never did!! Granted, I almost got off at the wrong stop, but that’s okay because I would’ve had my book to read while I waited for the next train to come around.

So, If you’re not as fortunate as me when it comes to university housing, and you find yourself a victim of the commute to school, get yourself a good book; and watch as you find yourself in the part of the universe where the commute to campus might be considered “enjoyable”, but never will it be exciting.


Until next time, keep reading!



Are You a Collegier?

LE CONFIDANT |ˈkänfəˌdant, -ˌdänt|

noun (fem. confidantepronunc.same) a person with whom one shares a secret or private matter, trusting them not to repeat it to others.  [Webster’s dictionary]

I am College Confidante(cece), a collegier’s best friend, confirming her thoughts on herself and everyone around her. With humor and satire, I will show him the way through situations he might or might not encounter. I am here to help figure out the ultimate bucket list, keep collegiers from being victims of roommate faux pas, and find ways to soothe their soul during finals week. I am who the collegier comes to when they just can’t deal with anything anymore.

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What is a collegier?

Is that even a real word?

A collegier is a guy or gal, in college, who knows exactly what they are doing and where they going. Everything she looks at is a la mode. Every person he interacts with wants to fan him with giant leaves. She’s always on the move and never holds back. His life is a college reality show involving some type of drama with school, people, and parties.

A collegier can easily be confused with a college goer, but you shouldn’t be mistaken because they are nothing alike. A college goer is just a person who hands their money to an institution waiting for everything to fall onto their lap. College goers sit back in the shadows and watch the collegiers shine in their respective spotlights. A collegier has mastered the art of getting what she wants, on her own time, and has the ultimate goal of gaining a career, not a job. He wants a career where he’s making top $$ and loves what he’s doing. With an army of mentors, strong personal beliefs, and a vivid goal, nothing can stop the collegier from finishing first on the race to the top.


Till next time,