How to Talk & Flirt With College Girls

Tips for college guys on how to talk and flirt with college girls

This how to talk to and flirt with girls section is for all the college guys out there who need help talking and flirting with girls. There are a few things you must force yourself to do in order to get girls to like you. Note: this section assumes you already know how to be a gentleman.

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Before you Talk to College Girls

Upgrade Your Appearance

You only have one chance to make a first impression, so make sure you are always dressed and groomed to the best of your ability. Basic stuff can go a long way: Brush your teeth, shower regularly, do your hair, wear clean clothes (get an iron and use it if your clothes are wrinkled). See our Fashion Tips for College Guys section for more on how to dress and groom yourself to improve your chances with women.

Be Active, Stay Busy, be Unavailable

The more girls think about you, the better. Busy guys don't have a lot of time to hang around because they are accomplishing things, most girls are attracted to this. Get involved, and fill up that calendar of yours, she may complain she never gets to see you, but deep down she will understand (or find a girl that does). She will be thinking about you when you are not together, if you already caught her interest. If you are not busy, pretend you are, girls loose interest in (and take advantage of) a guy quickly if he is always around and available.

Try Not to be Alone

Always try to be with a buddy or friend (it's even better if your buddy or friend is a good looking girl) in case you spot a girl you want to talk to. Walking with friends shows that people like to spend time with you, and that is good especially if other girls are with you.

How to Talk to College Girls

Be Confident

Girls are natually attracted to confidence. College guys need to learn how to be confident, but not cocky. It's all about how you handle the situation, try to let her know you are confident without bragging or taking about yourself. Most of the college guys out there are either wimps when it comes to girls (they act like they are too happy to be there) or they are overly cocky bastards (and treat women like objects). If you can show a college girl through your actions you are confident she will become more interested in you.

Be Positive

Try to only talk about good positive things so she remembers having a good conversation with you. Also try to avoid any heavy topics such as politics, religion, etc.

Be Playful and Flirty

Dont give a give a college girl a direct answer, try to be as vague as possible and playful. If she is interested in you she will ask more questions and you can give her just enough information to keep her guessing.

Make Her Laugh

Just about every female on this planet wants/loves a guy who can make them laugh. Women love guys who are funny because they believe funny guys have confidence. Everyone has a different sense of humor, you want to try to figure out what her sense of humor is like. Getting a girl to laugh is a one way to show she is at least a little bit interested in you. If she is laughing and touching you, (like on the arm) that is a good sign she likes you.

Kid With Her, But Don't Lie

You should try to make laugh and kid with her, but don't ever lie. Women hate it when guys lie to them, and they are excellent at detecting lies. They can remember everything you say when you tell a story and the second time you tell it they know if any parts of the story changed.

Smile

Always look like you are having a good time, even if you are not. If you naturally smile and laugh with other people it makes you look so much better.

Good Eye Contact

Eye contact is key, look deep into her eyes and don't stare at her body (especially her boobs - fight the urge). Girls think guys are more confident if they can keep good eye contact during a conversation.

Ask Her Questions

Girls love to talk, so let them. The more she talks to you the more it shows she is interested in you. If you let her talk 70% of the time she will like you more. Try to listen to what she says and ask followup questions on what she has already said.

Don't Tell Her Your Life Story

College girls have enough stress in their lives they don't want to be overwhelmed with information and know about your problems and such. Tell her as little as possible about you, if she wants to know she will ask. Even if girls say they want to know everything about you, don't tell them, give them small bits and pieces. Once they find out everything about you, you become less interesting. If she keeps pressing you for more information, just smile and respond (in a confident tone) with prases like "well if you stick around long enough, maybe someday you will find out".

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While Talking to College Girls

Don't Touch Her

You must fight the urge to touch a college girl. If you don't touch her but you are doing everything else right, she is just going to want you even more. Plus it's much more respectful not to touch girls you have just met. Basically let her touch you, but don't return the favor (until she is all over you).

Get Her Number!

Talking to college girls is pointless unless you get their number so you can resume the conversation at a later time. If you like the girl ask for her number because you never know when you will see her again. Be direct! Ask with confidence! Doc Love recommends saying something like "What is your home phone number?" or "I'd like to have your home phone number" it shows confidence. After getting her phone number tell her it was nice to meet her and walk away. Do NOT tell her you will call her or make any references to the future.

Be Able to Cut Your Losses

If a college girl does not seem interested in you (she is not making eye contact, her body is turned away from you...), ask her for her phone number, and if she does anything except give you her number, tell her it was nice to meet her and move on. Don't burn bridges and don't take it personally, not all girls like the same types of guys. Move on because there are always more girls out there looking to talk to a guy just like you.

After You Talk to a College Girl

Keep Phone Conversations Short

If you get a college girl's number and you call her (or she calls you), only talk to her long enough to set up a time when you can get together. Do NOT just talk about random stuff, tell her you gotta go and end the conversation short. Its not worth your time and effort talking on the phone so only use it to meet up or set up a date.

How to Talk to a Girl Walking on Campus

Walking around campus is a great place to meet college girls. If you see a girl that you want to talk to, don't just stare at her. Look in her eyes and when she looks at you smile. If she smiles back, stop and say hi and ask her what her name is. Don't tell her your name unless she asks because a girl who is interested will ask for your name. If she asks for your name get her for her phone number, and then tell her it was nice meeting her, you gotta go to class.

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Read Doc Love's Free Articles on AskMen.com and find out other ways to be successful with and talk to women.

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