Can clothes get you laid?

[collegeguy2115]

Just wondering what all you all think about the best way to dress to get a college girl's attention (and later on get laid) in college.

In my opinion, the clothes don't matter as much as long as they are clean, they match and they are not wrinkled.

[Writer-G]

Hmm, I'm not really the type of guy that pays attention to this stuff. But, I'd guess that as long as a guy is (like you said) dressed to impress, meaning his clothes are clean, and they match. I'm not too sure about the wrinkles. Like bad grades on tests you studied for, it happens. Gotta say, it's not really what you wear but how your personality is. It really says a lot more than what you're wearing. Therefore, more important. Just my 2-cents. =)

[Chris Phillips]

Writer-G: I agree 100%.

You could wear the nicest clothes in the world, but if you have a horrible personality no one is going to want to talk to you.

Dressing nice does help your chances of a first impression, but after that its all up to your personality. Your clothes don't always have to be perfectly ironed, just try to look nice and smile a lot, that always works for me.

[Writer-G]

Chris: I like your attitude.

I'm glad you agreed with me. That happens a lot with other people, for some reason. But, I'd like to add something. More of a question really.

Why is it that even college girls go for the guys who are...frankly, assholes? Their clothes and overall look are normal enough. Maybe even kind of got the "lazy look" goin'. But yeah, I still would think a good, cool, personality goes a long way. I'm just not sure why guys with horrible, pushy personalities get the girls. Like me, I guess I'm one of those nice guy, best friend types. It's really tough to get a girl, with my personality.

[Chris Phillips]

Writer G:

Why is it that even college girls go for the guys who are...frankly, assholes?

I have heard this question many times before... I think from the surface it looks like girls only go for those types of guys, but its only a coincidence that the ones you notice are "pushy @$$holes".

I think it's the fact that all @$$holes have (or seem to have) what many nice guys do not: Confidence. Guys who treat girls like $hit come across to girls as having confidence and don't give girls everything they want.

The key here is, they are more of a challenge for a girl compared to a nice guy who gives them everything they want. Plus, nice guys tell them everything about themselves (no mystery left), are usually always around (available), and girls know this so they can hang out with a nice guy anytime they want. The pushy @$$hole hardly ever gives her the time of day, and when he does she is excited to spend time with him. The pushy guy makes her work for it, and she is not used to that.

Eventually, as girls mature most tend to figure this out and go for nice guys with confidence, but remember confidence is the key! Females are naturally attracted to confidence (whether they admit it or not).

You don't have to be a pushy @$$hole, just do things that keep her attention: get involved and stay busy...(so you are not always around), don't talk on the phone (that's what her girlfriends are for), don't always agree with her, talk/flirt with other girls... all of those things scream confidence.

[lizzy anne]

I know this is sort of an all guy conversation but if you want a girls view...

Confidence IS the key. When I'm meeting a guy for the first time, if i feel like I'm having to lead the conversation then mostlikely I won't talk to that guy again, even if he is extremely attractive and I've wanted to talk to him for a long time.

Thats why we tend to be attracted to the "pushy @$$holes". Those guys don't rely on the girl to carry on the conversation and they aren't afraid to ask for your phone number. Personally, if you don't ask for my number, even if I really want to give it to you I won't. I automatically assume you aren't interested in me and I do'nt want to seem desprate or ****ty by openly offering it to you. You don't have to be pushy and cocky. You just need to control the situation and at least seem somewhat comfortable even if inside your screeming help! lol

Girls aren't monsters. Most of us are caring and understanding (thats one of the things yall like so much about us). We just like guys to be in control. If a girl can get whatever she wants whenever she wants it then SHE is in control of the relationship. And honestly we don't really want that.. but if you think we're gonna tell you to stop giving us everything on command then you are crazy! Girls don't want the stress and pressure of trying to hold the realtionship together. We are already worried about everything else.. When the GUY is in control then we feel safe and protected. Which leads to us being comfortable around you and loving you for taking care of us... which could lead to you getting the sex you want...

Anyways.. I hope yall aren't too mad that I broke into your conversation. I just wanted to give a girls advice on the whole thing. Hope it helps!

[College Tips]

I know this is sort of an all guy conversation but if you want a girls view...

Confidence IS the key. When I'm meeting a guy for the first time, if i feel like I'm having to lead the conversation then mostlikely I won't talk to that guy again, even if he is extremely attractive and I've wanted to talk to him for a long time.

Thats why we tend to be attracted to the "pushy @$$holes". Those guys don't rely on the girl to carry on the conversation and they aren't afraid to ask for your phone number. Personally, if you don't ask for my number, even if I really want to give it to you I won't. I automatically assume you aren't interested in me and I do'nt want to seem desprate or ****ty by openly offering it to you. You don't have to be pushy and cocky. You just need to control the situation and at least seem somewhat comfortable even if inside your screeming help! lol

Girls aren't monsters. Most of us are caring and understanding (thats one of the things yall like so much about us). We just like guys to be in control. If a girl can get whatever she wants whenever she wants it then SHE is in control of the relationship. And honestly we don't really want that.. but if you think we're gonna tell you to stop giving us everything on command then you are crazy! Girls don't want the stress and pressure of trying to hold the realtionship together. We are already worried about everything else.. When the GUY is in control then we feel safe and protected. Which leads to us being comfortable around you and loving you for taking care of us... which could lead to you getting the sex you want...

Anyways.. I hope yall aren't too mad that I broke into your conversation. I just wanted to give a girls advice on the whole thing. Hope it helps!

Wow lizzy anne,

Thank you for sharing a girl's opinion and helping the guys in this section of the forum.
Lizzy anne - you didn't fill out your contact info, please contact us if you would be interested in contributing more for CollegeTips.com.

[4yohluv]

like lizzy ann, im a girl and i agree with her. All we really want is for guys to take control. We like nice guys, but just like u guys may lose interest in a gurl who puts out 2 easy, we lose interest if we know we can get u just like that. we want a challenge and the prince to! Here is a tip for all u guys who have ever been in the friend zone: dont be her girlfriend! she knows ur a guy, but not a real guy. make her c u as a man, especially if there is an attraction there. because she may have feelings for u, but she'll never act on them because she doesnt want to ruin the relationship and she thinks u dont even c her like that...deep down she wants u 2 be the one to make the first move and to man up and dont let her makeup escuses as to y u cant be.

hope i helped u guys out...good luck getting gurls!

[College Tips]

like lizzy ann, im a girl and i agree with her. All we really want is for guys to take control. We like nice guys, but just like u guys may lose interest in a gurl who puts out 2 easy, we lose interest if we know we can get u just like that. we want a challenge and the prince to! Here is a tip for all u guys who have ever been in the friend zone: dont be her girlfriend! she knows ur a guy, but not a real guy. make her c u as a man, especially if there is an attraction there. because she may have feelings for u, but she'll never act on them because she doesnt want to ruin the relationship and she thinks u dont even c her like that...deep down she wants u 2 be the one to make the first move and to man up and dont let her makeup escuses as to y u cant be.

hope i helped u guys out...good luck getting gurls!

Another great post that gives insight into a female prospective.

To add on to what was said previously:
The beginning of every relationship is when you set the foundation for the rest of the relationship. Listen to this advice and do not get stuck in the friend zone because most likely you will be suck there forever.

Take the initiative and entertain the girl, take her out, make her laugh and have a backbone. You are the man - it is your job to put on a show for her and show her a good time. Have confidence step up and be a gentleman.

Don't agree with everything she says and if she crosses the line let her know.

[LAUREN]

I was about to ask a similar query myself - I'm interested to observe the answers.