i wanna rekindle an old flame

[jackstraw98]

so i was kinda seeing this girl at teh end of the spring like april and the first week or two of may before she left for the summer...we never were dating but were together all the time, sex was real good and i know she thought likewise and we i took out to dinner a few times and bought her some pretty earrings for her birthday, so we were more than just f*%# buddies there was certianly mutual feeling

when she got back she kinda just blew me off and i did the whole desperate thing that chased her off, i shoulda tried to stay in touch over the summer i guess...anyway even tho she kinda hurt my feelings i still kinda like her and im going abroad in feb so im not tyring to start a relationship anymore but i wouldnt mind getting some...maybe i just havent had enough hookups and none as good. i gave her a kitten i caught off the street and couldnt keep so im gonna use taht as a good excuse to go over there sometime (and i do wanna see the cat too) but how do i play it? how do i drop the hint that i want some but without making her think i want a relationship which she obviously wasnt interested in

suggestions?

[Chris Phillips]

Hey Jack

First thing its good you recognize you did the whole "disparate thing" because you are correct is a sure way to chase off a female.

If I were in your situation, I would move on and cut all ties with her. I know it may not feel like it now but there are plenty of other females out there for you. Every minute you spend with here is a minute of missed opportunity of running into a new girl that will WANT to spend time with you.

I would tell her to keep the cat, and stop all communication with her. Don't answer her calls, don't call her, no text messages, email etc.

Some people never change, so find someone who wants to be with YOU!

[yrina]

You're going abroad in Feb., so better stop chasing that girl. You are just challenged to her attitudes. Making an excuse in order to visit her always is not a good idea. She will notice it and will be pissed off. Try to find another girl. One play time is enough for her. If you chase that girl, she might just get angry with you.